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Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Being mom enough

EmmyLu, chillin'
First things first, this is my first post in a while and a lot has changed. Emmy Lucille (aka EmmyLu) was born 3 weeks early, late in the evening of March 26 via c-section. The last trimester of my pregnancy was rocky and I was put on bed rest, hence the silence in my blogging.

EmmyLu is a good baby with bouts of fussiness due to gas but most of the time, she wants to be held -- the other reason this post is 7 weeks late. She's finally letting go of the closeness (sniff) but at the same time, it was nice to just relax the last 7 weeks and hold a baby just as doctor ordered.  She is starting to sleep 6-8 hour stretches at night and I'm getting more rest. Who ever said rest when the baby sleeps didn't have an almost 4 year old (he turns 4 one week from today).

Ben is good. He's been doing speech therapy all school year and it's helping. He's talking a ton and we need to work on his articulation. He's really into aquatic life and knows all the fish in the ocean. He also loves being a big brother and his favorite phrase "She is SO cute!"
Ben drew me the ocean

I'll be heading back to work in 6 weeks which will open a flood gate of emotions and I'll also be thrown into our busy event season. I won't lie when I say that I'm dreading it (sorry co-workers) which is a natural response.

Being a mom of two is wonderful but it leaves little time for me. I make a list each week of items to tackle but I'm finding that I'm not getting to it. That means finding the time to do the things I enjoy are falling by the wayside. How do moms do it? We want to do it all but doing it all is impossible.

This brings me to the Time Magazine cover. Everyone is talking about it. Everyone has an opinion about it. What's my opinion? Who am I to judge another mom? Yeap, I'm fence sitting. Personally, I don't plan to extended breast feed EmmyLu but who am I to say it's wrong for another mom? Didn't our parents teach us not to judge one another?

As mother's, everyone is throwing their opinion at us. I'm blessed to be around friends and resources that supported my breastfeeding efforts. With my son, there was a lot of chatter when vacationing that I should not feed my baby in public (he was covered up) and that I wasn't poor and could afford formula so why was I breastfeeding? One of my Facebook friends (a guy) took to the social network and talked about how disgusting it was someone was feeding their baby in front of others at a party (he was single and now I know why). When we ask questions on baby forum boards, they often get heated when it comes to getting to baby to sleep through the night and putting cereal in your baby's bottle.

What we really need is to support one another and only give those opinions when someone asks.

About this blog moving forward .... we are still going green gradually, in fact, I have a lot to talk about as I'm still making progress on my green plan. I also have been a little more eco-friendly with the baby than with Ben. I didn't go with cloth diapers though more on that to come. I probably won't make my own baby food so more to come on that.

So my promise ... I miss blogging and I'm going to start posting more often.

1 comment:

  1. Congrats on baby EmmyLu, she is a cutie! I'm happy to hear she's sleeping some, and hopefully you are catching up on a bit of rest too! Ben has quite the gift! Perhaps he's our next Jacques Cousteau?

    As for the Time article, I too, plead the fifth. Well, with one exception - I didn't like the photo/title on the cover, but mostly due to the immediate feeling seeing/reading it invoked in me. The article is fine. Not inflammatory, just informative. The photo, though, is one of a gorgeous, skinny, woman nursing her to the words "Are you Mom Enough." What I read into it was this..."Am I mom enough to look like an amazingly put together, perfect bodied supermodel, while being super mom and nursing my kids until they start school? Oh, and have breasts that look like they've never seen pregnancy, let alone years of nursing."

    Well, that's certainly not me, so immediately I felt a bit of self-hatred. That really isn't what the article is about, but that is what the cover conveys to me, and I don't like it. Ahhh...glad I got that off my chest!



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